It sounds like you did a lot of good reflecting in your post of tonights events. Don't apologize to your W for today. That may just make her feel guilty and make her feel worse. It sounds like you handle the sitch as best as possible.

Me: 41
H: 42
DDs: 10 & 15
M: 19yrs.
Bomb: June 2007
Separated:10/28/07
previous threads
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1270987&page=5&fpart=1