Well, I did have plans today, and organised W to look after DD. But as per usual, my W decided she was having a fantastic time and forgot about my life, funny.
Organised for her to pick DD up at 12:00, She rang me at 1:15 asking, "What time did u want me to pick DD up?". MLC or just inconsideration?
Old me would have told her off when she got home, but new me will just shrug it off and say "Honest mistake, no problems".
What's 2 hours between friends
Saf, sorry to hear about the Rugby....... your team usually doesn't click until midway through the tournament anyway.
Trying and Hope, thanks for the compliment's...........it's a nice PMA boost.
NCB, Choceyes and Husband, it's funny how our sitch's are so different, yet so much alike. It goes to show that our S's really do suffer by the "text book".
Enjoying life and getting on with things. Who knows what may happen in the future???
I have also decided to sell the house (not buy W out) and buy something more in suiting to my new "bachelor" lifestyle (with consideration to DD's stay overs of course). Something right in the "guts" of the city (North Sydney).
Still DBing for my own sake.........and getting better at it with each day. Driving W nuts with how civil and normal things are..........I think she misses the conflict because without it she realises that I have moved on and have no emotional attachment to her anymore.
To Husband and NCB, it's not as scary as I thought After acceptance, you are free to look forward to the next chapter of your life. Surrounding yourself with fabulous friends and wonderful family (as well as a great job), you start seeing the "light" at the end of the tunnel. Also, I am living my life the way I always wanted, without the restrictions of W, but with the bonus of already having a wonderful DD in my life.
The hardest part is still living in the same house. So I am looking forward to closure in that regard.
You do sound upbeat and forward looking. That is truly wonderful, and I am so glad for you.
It may be that in some of our cases the WAS becomes so toxically self-focused and so insistent on fixing the blame for their life's grievances on us, the LBS (whether that happens to be true or not) that in reality they actually become the impediment to our happiness instead. So should the WAS achieve there goal of ousting the LBS from their lives, we are the ones who really benefit.
Still DBing for my own sake.........and getting better at it with each day. Driving W nuts with how civil and normal things are..........I think she misses the conflict because without it she realises that I have moved on and have no emotional attachment to her anymore.
Andy- I want to be in a place of peace like you sound like you've gotten to. Not that there aren't still difficult times, but you sound peaceful. I wanted to say that I think my H gets upset with me for being civil and not having conflict too. Wow, how he stepped closer to me this weekend after I went off and did my own things without calling him. I have no doubts that he still wants out, but I think he's still mucked up in a lot of confusion.
She's missing out on a great guy with you!!
SueS
Last edited by SueS; 02/04/0808:56 PM.
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
