Have you seen the reality show about the matchmaker for millionaires? You would be great at something like that. Maybe matchmaking for people coming out of SSMs. OR Have you heard of "cuddle parties"? These are non-sexual touch orgy events since folks are so touch starved. How about hosting the same thing but with a more sexual edge - naked twister, jello wrestling, strip poker and so forth....... You could be an entrepreneur while working on your memoirs. Perfect.
I know you mean well but this suggestion makes me think that I must be doing a poor job of expressing the "real" me on this forum. I would be horrified to find myself doing anything like that for a living. I was even appalled by Corri's suggestion that I write a book about my zoo theory. There is no drug made by God or man that would make me able to deal with the possibility of experiencing my 15 minutes of fame for something like that.
The reason that I always talk about the sexual marketplace is that I am trying to get over being completely skeevy about the ways in which sex and money intersect. There's this terrible calculation that goes on in my head that goes something like: I feel loved when I get physical touch (sexual or affectionate). Men want to physically touch me when I look attractive. I look attractive when I spend $50 on a good bra and spend an hour I could be working primping for a date. Therefore, I might as well skip the middle steps and just hand some gigolo a wad of cash. Except that's not really true. Still I can't work out why it's psychologically true that there is no such thing as P.O.C. yet I have to enforce price controls and add value to my own P.O.P. in order to be in compliance with cultural conventions.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Still I can't work out why it's psychologically true that there is no such thing as P.O.C. yet I have to enforce price controls and add value to my own P.O.P. in order to be in compliance with cultural conventions. When a woman puts up with a man that is mean to her or he is lazy, is that the price of C (P.O.C.)?
Totally and completely kidding although I CAN see you advising these guys as the matchmaker does that some of their behaviors will NOT net a quality relationship. I can see you being able to state in terms that guys can buy into where they are going wrong. Perhaps the intellectual property you should be working with is editing self help/relationhip materials. Anyway, I was totally and completely kidding about any potential employment with some of these silly things that seem to be societies way of sensationalizing while skirting the real issues of sexuality, men and women and so on.
Perhaps the intellectual property you should be working with is editing self help/relationhip materials.
You guys crack me up. I don't make my living in a field that involves sex or relationships. I am a book dealer who specializes in obscure technical topics and lost arts & crafts. An example of what I mean by Intellectual Property Rehabilitation would be to gather sewing patterns from Civil War era magazines into a book, add relevant modern introductory and instructive information and sell it to the Re-enactment market in print-on-demand format. Other than getting regularly laid ( edit that to read "affectionately man-handled"), my primary life goal/passion is to be a publisher.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Men want to physically touch me when I look attractive. I look attractive when I spend $50 on a good bra and spend an hour I could be working primping for a date.
Is that more "marketplace reality", or the view from in front of your mirror? No offense to the male gender, but in my opinion, not that many of them can tell the difference (or care) between a well-fitted bra by Dolce & Gabbana and a well-fitted bra by Maidenform. Ditto the primping.
Nothing wrong with spending the extra $ or going that extra mile to impress *yourself* and feel extra-smokin' hot. But then it's no longer about the external marketplace, IMHO.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
Ket No offense to the male gender, but in my opinion, not that many of them can tell the difference (or care) between a well-fitted bra by Dolce & Gabbana and a well-fitted bra by Maidenform. I agree. Looks wise, I don't see much difference. From BB's POV it is the fit and how the item feels to her.
Ditto the primping. I think men notice the primping.
Can they tell the difference between 15 minutes of primping and an hour or upwards? I don't see that much difference. What difference I see after the fact, all takes place in the first 10 minuets.
I see BB doing the 30 minuets thing but don’t see the improvements equal to the time when compared to the 5 to 10 minuet primps. Those short primps, I feel are worth the time. but I never went for looks that much. Other things were more important.
What is in and what is out of style drives some women's primping is my guess.
When I was in 5th. grade I went to 5 different schools. For boys, it was the brand of blue jeans that counted. I never figured out why Wranglers were top choice in one school and Levis were top brand in another school. The other brand was looked down upon. Why? Because people want to be in "the look" what ever it is at the moment.
Okay, I had a mostly terrible Valentine's Day and it was mostly my own fault because I am apparently pretty much the worst GF on the planet. I am sunk in a miasma of self-pity and loathing. Plus I have PMS so I am cranky. I hold myself mostly responsible for my current pathetic state of being but because I am cranky I feel compelled to cast aspersions upon certain members of this BB whose advice/comments were the opposite of helpful to me because they either frightened me or reinforced certain areas of low self-esteem which I can't help having. So I would ask that in the future people limit their tendencies to make comments about:
1) Women being crazy and bi-polar women being sexual freaks but too crazy to want to be in a relationship with otherwise. Please recall that my mother is HD and bi-polar and although I am not actually bi-polar and I don't tend towards rage like my mother and I do tend towards being a smiling depressive like my father on the downside, I am well aware that I have general tendencies in this direction.
2) The fact that I can't help but signal "bunkey" will cause men to lure me into their cars with candy but then toss me out on the side of the road. Telling me this doesn't scare me enough to keep me away from the cars/men/candy but it scares me enough that I strap on a safety helmet as soon as I finish the candy and then I end up thoroughly insulting men by signaling lack of trust.
Of course, it is really all my own fault that I am currently finding myself in relationships where I find myself either saying "I am not a baby." (GP) or hearing "Are you a grown woman or not?" (FSG). Pretty much if you want to be in a relationship with me these days, you need to bring along a nice padded carriage and lots of lollipops.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
