I've been being the friend to him the more and more he's been opening up to me. It just seems to me that I'm patted on the back every so often here but when I get like this I just stompped.
You're doing good things.
Others have been through hell ... and some of them even have come back.....so they feel very strongly when they feel you are heading into a territory that will backfire on you ... they can actually feel the anxiety for you. There are a few DBers that seem to be in situations that I've been in, and when they are heading down a path that seems so 'cheeseless' ... my stomach goes in knots. When they do the same thing over and over again, like I used to....I'm as mad at them as I was at myself.
I LOVE that you are brainstorming and coming up with crazy loving ways to show your H. Sometimes our first thought has to be 'checked'.....and your friends here are there to provide that check. Sometimes they will be right, sometimes they will be wrong. (Same with you and me). But they will provide the 'check'. Then you wait and weigh it.
You experiment, monitor results......and if it isn't working, don't do more of it.
Some of the things you're doing to build the friendship are just wonderful. And that could save the day.
You are learning. You are building your relationship skills. Your timing is no one else's timing...and in the end......no matter what any person says -- even me -- you are your relationship expert. We ... and DB are your tools.
(If you call me a tool--I may not respond kindly ;))
sg
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
