Virtual antlers

[Kettricken]

Hoo boy. Ok, as always, my opinion is worth what you paid for it, but .....

The whole thing has since progressed to "cybersex" with webcam performances. He says he's going to move here, but won't say when. She told me that if he does show up, she doesn't think she'll be able to stop herself from sleeping with him.

Meanwhile, she's still as loving and affectionate and sexual with me as ever. Well, except for a period of almost a week when he wasn't in contact with her and she went into a funk and wanted nothing to do with anyone. But, fortunately for both of us, she came back out of it.

What was your sex/physical relationship like before this guy came back into the picture? Because the above sounds to me like her relationship with him is spiking her drive through the roof and you're getting the spillover. Not only is that pretty repulsive, being the virtual equivalent of sloppy seconds (IMHO), will it continue if/when he is *physically* available to her? Is her desire being mostly or solely propped up by her affair? How viable is that, long-term?

....as long as she remained emotionally and physically intimate with me, I would still want to be with her.

So how can she carry on without losing her feelings for yours truly?

Of course everyone is different, but *please* do not count on her being able to retain her attraction and especially her physical and emotional intimacy with you. I'm trying not to overgeneralize, but IMHO very few women can successfully balance sexual and emotional intimacy with more than one man. Unless he is a crap lover, you are running a big risk here by being so accepting of this. Chances are high that as she continues to bond with him sexually, she will pull away from you, without even meaning to. Even if she thinks you guys are both great in bed, the odds favor him because of the power of Strange, in addition to the ersatz romance attending star-crossed lovers.

It all just sounds like a heartbreaking disaster waiting to happen.

And I, too, have to ask ... where is your self-respect in all this?