I have gotten you guys saying this since I logged on in August. I don't know HOW to let him go though. Some days I'm fine and some days he CONSUMES my mind!
You find things that take up your time. Read a book, scrapbook, take a nap, exercise, watch tv, visit family, etc. If you're concentrating on something else, there won't be room to think about him. It's hard to do at first, but it does get easier.
I do all of these things and H still manages to get in my head somehow. Maybe once it's nice out again it won't be so bad since D and I will be able to actually get out and do things some more.
I can say Jeanette that the thoughts of H are different than before and ALOT less consuming. But sometimes, like right now, it takes my ALL to get him out of my head. And it sucks because since I'm his wife (I know, he doesn't think of me as such right?) that I should be able to think of him 24/7. Not the opposite that DR teaches. I hate this.
BND, the scrapbooking is coming along again quite nicely. D is now 7 1/2 yo and I just finished scrapbooking her 1st surgery (she was 10 weeks old). So now I'm on November of 00. I'm at her 3 month mark in life and I already have 3/4th of the book full. This kid's going to have ALOT of pics to look at when she's older. She loves it already though!
Dar, You don't have any idea of what goes through his head, or what he is thinking. That is why it is not safe to ASSume anything. Worry about Dar and your daughter. Your Husband is a big boy and right now he is trying to figure out the crap in his head. Let him sort things out all by himself. He needs a friend, NOT a wife or a Mommy
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
I've been being the friend to him the more and more he's been opening up to me. It just seems to me that I'm patted on the back every so often here but when I get like this I just stompped.
