Triangular Theory of Love

[fearless]

Thanks Cemar. I was just curious. To me it sounds like you are not a passionate person. You desire passion in your marriage but you do not have passion elsewhere in your life.

Anyway, as far as #3, I meant I wondered whether your friends and acquaintances would KNOW about your passion and not so much whether they shared your passion. To me having your passion (including passion about your spouse) be visible is important.

I'm going to answer the same questions I asked of you. I wonder if you can tell a difference in how we answered the same questions.


1) In what ways did/do you express the passion you felt/feel for your spouse - pre-marriage, immediately post marriage and today?

Pre-marriage - talking to my friends about how amazing Raven is, telling Raven why I love him so much, touching him, making time for him, talking to him whenever I have a spare minute, ML, etc.

Post marriage/Now - same things:) as pre-marriage plus I compliment him and kiss and hug him in front of my step-kids (I wish there was a better word!) now. I want them to see how I feel about their father and to see that getting married should only INCREASE the passion we have.

2) What else are you passionate about in life?

The environment, farming, running, politics, Ohio State University sports, cooking, wine, gardening, books, constantly looking to be a better me, family, etc.

3) Would friends and acquaintances know about your passion in life?

Yes, I talk passionately about the things I believe in and somewhat wear my heart on my sleeve regarding my opinions. I get excited when I talk about things I am passionate.

4) Do you "feed" your passion regularly? How???

I try to but I can get run-down and busy at times too. Part of the way I feed my passion is to TALK about what I am passionate about - whether it's Raven, OSU football, books I am reading, etc. I try to take time for my passions but some times they do go on hiatus. Running is one example. I LOVE running and always have. However I have also had months and years where I don't run because I don't have the time. For me, I don't see it as losing the passion. I just put it on the backburner for awhile. I still do things like looking up about runners, reading Runner's World, watching running on TV, etc.