Now some bad thoughts, I have a suspicion she's now dating and involved with someone or is interesting in someone. She's grown noticeably emotionally distant but still maintaining a friendly demeanor. She's now online at night until fairly late by her standards. She's evidently going to her room and even the closet at times to talk on the phone. This is bothering the girls ...
... Still I'm focusing on the good in life and honestly am having a great day otherwise!
Well, that's a good thing
Sorry to be a downer today. I always suspected there might be someone else involved in your situation. This just proves it, i'd say. She may have been involved with him this whole time; it's only now that she has a legal agreement for financial support from you in place, that she is finally being less vigilant about hiding it from you.
This may be why she "had to have the agreement". because she was tired of hiding it.
Be careful.. she may be letting this slip out now, in hopes of getting you to blow up at her, so that she can justify to herself the step of proceding onto a D. So... dont go there.
You might choose to reveal to her, in a very calm way, that you realize that she is involved with someone now. Possibly with sadness, rather than anger. Then see what her response is. It's a risk. but it is said that things change one way or another, once the affair is out in the open.
Her most probable response will be denial that anything is going on. But in some ways, it doesnt matter what she says to you in reply. The important thing is that she will then know, that you know.
So if you want to catalyze something happening in your relationship.... this would be one way of doing it. Warning: doing this will most likely make things worse, before they possibly get better.
You may not want to actually do this.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
