You see Jeff, I read about your conversation with your ex today and honest to God, I actually felt a touch of sympathy for her. She had NO IDEA what she was pushing herself towards. It's the old "be careful what you ask for - you just might get it" deal.
Don't worry, I didn't get too carried away with the feeling sorry thing, just in case you were worried.
I don't hear from mine except to make arrangements for the boys, so I'll probably never know if she has moments like that. I'd like to think that they all have flashes of lucidity during which there is that brief moment where they wonder just what in the hell they have done, but who knows.
Single parenthood is tough. I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. I appreciate that it sounds like you're doing well enough to be agreeable with her when it comes to the kids. I know for me, I'm not interested in drama anymore when it comes to the ex. She's the boy's Mom and she deserves to see them and spend time with them. More importantly THEY deserve to have a Mom in their life, even if she did find it necessary to move two states away from them.
Sigh. We never signed up for this, did we Jeff? But you know what? When all is said and done, when the years have passed and our kids have grown and begun families of their own, we will have found a good and full life, one that we can really enjoy this time because of all we've learned along the way. And our kids will NEVER forget that in the midst of a period of great turmoil in their lives, they had ONE parent who was stable, consistent, and put THEIR needs before our own. We will take great satisfaction in those days my friend.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
