Have you thought that maybe when you tell your W about how YOU feel it makes her cool towards you because it is actually making her feel guilty. That is not what she wants to feel. She wants to feel that good strong Frank will be fine without her - heck, maybe she has talked herself into thinking you will be better without her - and so when you tell her your feelings it brings her back to reality and she just can't handle that.
Yes, I agree with you. I'm going to stop any and all conversations about anything other than house, kids, dinner, whatever is needed to 'live together' for now.
No matter how you look at it, having a 'relationship' with a married man who 'loves his wife' is not the actions of an emotionally mature person. Both HER and OM.
The things I am doing that are reacting to her are really unhealthy and I need to stop. I can't do anything for myself and my life unless I'm healthy.
Being in this place I've been in for so long isn't how I want to live my life. While I can 'wish' she had decided to support me in January when I started down the path of healing myself, she didn't. That's the way she is.
Now, the way I am is to problem solve, but some problems are best left alone because the more you try to fix them, the more they hurt you.
In all reality, what am I losing. If this is how I react when she's around, maybe I am better off without her in my life.
So for me, the question is what would I do to live life for myself? Wipe the slate clean, start over?
