I can see how you feel about going to a doctor in the same office as your husband. But I would explore some different AD's. I went through three before I found one that worked with minimal side effects...and it's really helping to stabilize my emotions.
I know it's hard to ask for help, and embarrassing. But really, this is a no-kidding full-blown crisis for you...much like a natural disaster.
I think I'd tell the husband of your girlfriend that it's okay that he doesn't know what to say. You just appreciate that he's there to listen when you need to talk. That's all.
Even if clergy doesn't know how to DB, it still helps to talk to somebody that you know will keep everything confidential and will honestly listen without judging. If you explained your sitch, I wonder if the church would be willing to let you see one of their counselors for free or at a reduced rate?
"Drop the rope" is just a euphemism for relinquishing control or the desire to control.
Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden