Have you thought that maybe when you tell your W about how YOU feel it makes her cool towards you because it is actually making her feel guilty. That is not what she wants to feel. She wants to feel that good strong Frank will be fine without her - heck, maybe she has talked herself into thinking you will be better without her - and so when you tell her your feelings it brings her back to reality and she just can't handle that.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength