Okay, I don't know what is going on but H's behavior is very weird! It's like he has a split personality: how could he go off with OW this weekend and then act like he does this week? He woke me up Tues. morning to chat about his job (don't remember him doing this for a long time if ever), and today he woke me up and had bought me a bagel for breakfast (again never? usually just does this for the kids). Last night we watched the 3rd Matrix movie, talked a little, laughed and every couple minutes would look at each other and smile (he was doing this also). Does this sound like someone that is going to be divorcing you in a few months? I am so confused? WTH is going on in our R? Is he just happy he is divorcing me or I am going along with the affair? Does he have feelings for me and he doesn't even realize?
Talking to the C today, mostly about my childhood, and some bad stuff that happened there that probably led to the co-dependent stuff today, did talk about the horrible laundry stuff and how awful that was, and how I will NEVER do that again! We never got to the what to do if he goes out of town again, will have to discuss that next week. Lots of tears at today's C session, glad to have that over with but I guess it's good to discuss stuff like that and get it out in the open which I've never done before.
My C thinks H's affair will not last, because they usually don't and the whole cleaning up the car for hours thing pretending to be neat(btw it is only 6 months old or it probably would have taken him even longer!). I also think H thinks women like me are growing on trees or something: attractive, smart, funny, and really tolerant women who want to clean up after him and take care of him and love him no matter what and I have a feeling he will be a little surprised about that (and my C agreed with me)! Karen43
