Interesting exchange with Ex today. I would rather not talk to her on V-day but she called twice so far.
The first call was at 7:20. She says that S10 did not have his spelling list and he had a test today. Could I read her the words from the master list? I told her I did not have the list. She said S10 said he left it with me. I said he did not. She gets all mad like it was my fault or something. I listened and said I would look again to make sure son did not leave it at my place. She hangs up.
S10 has a spelling test every Thursday so why does she suddenly discover the list was missing? You study for the test the night before, not the morning of. And oh BTW the kids should have been at school by 7:20 so they were running late as well.
Welcome to being a single parent Ex.
She calls me at work a few hours later and apologized for her abruptness. She said she scolded S10 about the spelling. I listened. We discussed some stuff she had not yet picked up from my house.
Then she proceeds to tell me about some problems, how her phone line was cut when some workers were installing a fence at her new house and other problems she was having.
She told me she had two trips coming up and asked if I would consider giving her some additional time with the kids. She sounded emotional. Our child visitation schedule does not provide for make up time for travel but I said I would work with her.
I mentioned picking up the kids tonight and she snapped "I KNOW it is YOUR night". Then she says she needs to get D6's meds to me since this is my weekend with the kids starting tonight. D6 had a throat infection earlier this week. She said she did not want to put the meds in D6's bookbag b/c D6 would be "embarassed" at school. I asked Ex to drop it by daycare where I pick them up but she said that she may have to run it over to my apartment tonight. She was emotional again.
Then she asked about my move and her voice started to quiver. I asked if she was ok, that she sounded stressed. She said she was. I said to take care of herself. I could tell from her voice she was tearing up and so she ended the call.
I should ask why is Ex is so stressed? Why does she need extra time with the kids? Why would D6 be embarassed? Why is she crying on the phone to her xH?
The H she wanted to get rid of. The new house that was going to make everything perfect. How the children would do fine with the D instead of being embarassed by it. How the visitation schedule would be fine all around.
Why is she crying? Tears of joy b/c she has the divorce she wanted so much? The divorce to make life sweet?
