I have to disagree with Mark (sorry Mark) about their 'entrance rules' - this will depend on the location (and their requirements) - we were never asked about an OP - and my H started talking to his OW in the middle of Retro and we got through it. They only ask that you both go in with an open mind and heart. The post sessions are in a diff location than the weekend - there are more places that they are offered so the drive may only be the one time. You probably could find out ahead of time where the post sessions are. My H said it was b/c of Retro - NOT IC, NOT MC, NOT Separation that turned it around for him. Go into the piecing forum and go back several pages there are some threads on Retro - a lot more specifics for sure!

It's a great way to learn how to communicate - even if D happens after. Worst case is she come back from the weekend unchanged - so what do you have to lose? I thought we were done too....

Good Luck!

HB


Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10
8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth
2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home
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