I haven't had time to read your sitch (I'll try to catch up later when I have some extra time.) I think if you've been "clingy" recently or contacted her a lot it's best not to text anything, but if you haven't spoken or texted her in awhile a friendly "Hey, hope you have a fun V. day!" is okay and can be good... like a sign of goodwill and a little reminder or your existence and what a nice person you are. You could even make it sound like a "mass texting" that you've sent out to all your friends. For example, if she texted back and asked about it or what it meant you could always say, "I just wanted to say Happy V. Day to all my friends.... and you, being the mother of my child I will always consider a friend. Anyhow, I really hope you have a great day."

And then, if you have child with you do something really special tonight. And if you don't have child with you do something very special for yourself!


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