I have worked hard to give my W the space she craved, and it has paid off. Last night she called me as I was driving home and said, why don't we go out for sushi? I picked her up, we went to our favorite sushi bar, and then as I was driving her home she asked if I was coming up.
We ended up in about 3 hours of R talk...sure, it may seem non-DB, but in our sitch, the time was right.
We had a breakthrough in understanding how we both feel about ourselves and each other, and what has driven our changes.
We spent the night together, and this morning, she woke me up with a soft kiss and said "happy valentine's day". As we drove to work, she said she feels really good about where we are headed, and I said I feel confident that we are going to make it.
We are having dinner tonight for Valentines Day, and she is coming to "my place" (actually our place) Saturday night.
She told me a little while ago that she was 90% out the door, and couldn't imagine us together after what we had been through. Now she is committing to working on the marriage with me. All of the reaching out came from her.
It does happen, and I am so thankful for DB, DR, and the support I have received from this board.
It's still one day at a time, but now we have a goal to work toward. Happy Valentine's Day? YEAH IT IS!
