Hi everyone, Yes, it's me, LuvmyHusband. My H arrived last Friday and left yesterday. Things went well for a bit, got tense, then ended up very well. Tuesday, was a little difficult at first but then something changed. I don't know what happened but he apologized for some things. We sat down and talked. Really talked and really listened to each other. It was wonderful. We expressed our feelings about behaviors, actions, hurtful things. We talked about future expectations of behavior that we would not accept and things we wanted to see different in each other.
We talked again in the morning before he left. It was so different, so very different. The dynamics are changing between us. He said he does want to reconcile, that sometimes when we aren't getting along that he doesnt but that most of the time he does. I understood what he was saying as I have felt the same way. He actually said "ILY" over the phone. I about fell out of my chair!
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
Thanks everyone, he even brought me a rose bud plant and candy before he left. It was so sweet. I sent him an e-card. He'll get it when he gets back to his parents.
Kimmie, I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. I'm feeling really great right now but I also realize how quickly it can spiral. I have to handle this with kid gloves. No pressure, being calm, still giving him space, no control and no, absolutely no criticism. It could go south in an instant if he felt that way.
I have worked so hard to make changes in myself. Yoyo, Saffie, Husband, Lwb and Sues, among others have seen my posts since last October. I was very reactive and emotional. I didn't really start working hard until after the first of the new year. It's been hard but very worth it. It's been great for my kids and myself. My H says he sees the changes in me too which made me feel good.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
Today is, of course, a difficult day for alot of us, and even when good things happen, I know I tend to look for the rotten spot on the apple. It makes me feel so happy to read about the positive things going in your sitch. It's like a drop of water in my bucket of hope, and I run around trying to catch drops whenever I can, hoping some day to fill it to overflowing.
So I hope you truly enjoy the good feelings you are having, embrace the hope you feel, spread it around you and let it lift you up. If you've read or heard anything about "The Secret", you'll know that we have to concentrate only on what we want, the positives, and that is how we make our own dreams come true. I've found some pretty good parking spots that way - now if I could only make it work for my M!!
Happy Valentine's Day Luv!!
FA
What does not destroy me, makes me stronger.
FA:43, H:42 D:7 M:10 yrs, T:24 yrs EA:?, PA:1/06 S:3/07 EA/PA ongoing Aborted attempt to move home 07/08
Hey all, I'm so sorry if I caused anyone to feel worse today. I didn't think about it. I so hope things keep going. My H and I are meeting online tonight for a "date". I'm not going to push.
Thanks Saffie for the pat! It's a lot better than the 2 x 4's I used to get!! lol.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
My H arrived last Friday and left yesterday. Things went well for a bit, got tense, then ended up very well. Tuesday, was a little difficult at first but then something changed. I don't know what happened but he apologized for some things. We sat down and talked. Really talked and really listened to each other. It was wonderful. We expressed our feelings about behaviors, actions, hurtful things. We talked about future expectations of behavior that we would not accept and things we wanted to see different in each other. 
