Late last night we had a conversation. I told her I think we should slow things down with respect to a divorce, not rush into anything. She wondered if it is possible to get past all this. I told her I absolutely think it is, and we can have a R that was better than ever, but there some things that have to happen first. Like she has to first acknowledge her affair, and also want to quit - she tells me she doesn't think she can quit it (hey, at least she is being honest for the first time in a long while). Right now she is still very much in denial. She actually asked if she could hear the recording I have of them!!!! I think she isn't exactly sure what she said and is trying to come up with ways to explain it. The bottom line, when you are telling the OM how great your orgasms are with him because you are in love with him, then that pretty much seals the deal for me. I don't know (and for now don't want to know) how they did it, where they did it, how much they did it, etc. Just knowing she betrayed me was enough for now. So my question du jour - should I let her hear the very explicit recording of herself? Would that shock her into accountability or drive her further away?
