I need some legal help....

[enlightenbylife]

Hmmm no replies....

I hate it when my friends have to work.

E

[Jeanette1120]

Ick....not a good way to start the day

{{{HUGS}}}

Okay...I might get clobbered for this, but uhm...he's got his house, he's got him woman, he should get the hell out NOW! Let him go LIVE with her whilst he waits for HIS DREAM TO COME TRUE.
sorry.......grrrr.

H I will not disrupt my life until it is closed.

How very kind of him. Hmmm...ok. So lets not disrupt his NEW LIFE. Lets help him along shall we? With a big smile and the whole speack of I love you enough to let you (while your packing his stuff) and I just want you to find your happiness (while your taping the box) and the kids and I will be OK (while your setting box at front door)

This may not quite be db'ing...but in a way it is. It is showing him that you are now going to take back your control. You are a big girl and will be just fine. ( ) all along acting as if.....ugh!

Hugs sweetie! I know how hard this is.

Jeanette

[Grace_O]

(((((el)))))


While this sux, it wasn't unexpected. The question is what can you do to take care of yourself while you struggle with this pain? I'm a believer that if you care for yourself you can move to more positive thoughts (being positive he's an ass doesn't count) sooner. I'm not exactly known for my optimism. I'm one of those who thinks the glass is too big when asked if it's half empty or half full. Having said that, let me tell you I start everyday with my goals in mind and end everynight with gratitude for all that happened in the day. Heck, if it can help me......

I can't imagine there are any trustworthy men out there...
I trusted once and look what happened.

Everyone isn't him. It's easy to fall into the trap of being defensive and digging a chasm around yorself. Isolating yourself (IMO) won't help. While very few people know of my sitch, I have been awed by the kindness and support I've found esp here on this bb. You need time to mourn and heal. Anything I can do to help.....let me know.

[Virtually_Handsome]

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I'm sorry it's come to this, and that he's being a jerk about it besides!

I can't imagine there are any trustworthy men out there...
I trusted once and look what happened.

Right now it probably doesn't seem possible, and it doesn't really matter, but we're not all like him! Someday you'll be ready to find that out!

[enlightenbylife]

Well my valentines present to me was to callto find out where the divorce/seperation support group is

Hmmmmm what I always wanted

Thanks Grace

Being positive that he is a stupid ass is a teenie tiny bit gratifying though

When you start your day what helps you to on the right track....right away? I need some kick starts.

He was my first and my one and only I think this is why I feel so isolated and crushed.

The kids have been there but they are so angry about the situation so I know this is for the best.

((((Grace )))you are helping more than you know just by repling when I need the shoulder.

E

[enlightenbylife]

Yes get that's how I feel but the house is being rented right now
but I told him go stay with her anyway.

She still married and at home...what trash huh?

My sister,bless her heart, wants to tell her husband .I told her do what ever just don't get involved

I thought about packing his stuff but I'm going to the lawyer tommorrow and I want to see the est avenue for me financially.

Then LOOK OUT It ain't gonna be pretty.

I'm going for the jugular in a very nice way.

Your story about packing his stuff was very funny.

I saw the visual...made me laugh and I needed that...Thanks for the valentine Janette

And the hugs ... Mmmmm nice and fuzzy too

Thanks so much

E

[enlightenbylife]

Hi Jeff

Yea how incredibly cold and calus.

I hope he gets just a twinge of his own medicine some day.

Naw a big one, he deserves it HA!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the response Jeff

Can all the sincere guys out there please wear a badge or someting so us sincere gals can spot you right away without having to deal with the jerks.And please put a bug target on the jerks. I'll bring my arrow.

E

[Grace_O]

el,

My kick starts are to think of my goals before I get out of bed. Then I meditate for about 20 min. If you haven't done this before I have a cd that might be helpful. Let me know if you're interested. I have a P.E. class 5 days a week ($50 for the semester) and the days I don't I either work out at home or go for a walk (at least 3 miles). Early on I found that walking really helped me clear my head. You know that edgy bad energy you get? I would start off thinking all kinds stuuf my mind would just race, then after a couple of miles (ok, some days this was more like 6 or 7 miles) I'd be a little calmer and could think of things to do or not do. Not all of these things were to help with H. Most were just about me and our D's and how to best take care of us. What I wanted and how I thought I could get there.

[enlightenbylife]

I would love to learn how to meditate.

Could you please send me the name of the cd.

But first how do you muster up the concentration?

Right now it's kinda tough, but at least I'm feeling better than this mornihng...Thanks guys

E

[Virtually_Handsome]

Can all the sincere guys out there please wear a badge or someting so us sincere gals can spot you right away without having to deal with the jerks.And please put a bug target on the jerks. I'll bring my arrow.

Wouldn't it be nice if it was so easy to tell!

At least your day has to get better, right!

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