If you need to talk, don't go to her. Go to a friend, counselor, this board...anywhere but her. She's swallowed up in her own emotional hurricane and she just can't deal with anyone else's needs.
I think you're doing great. Put enough of those baby steps together and...viola!...you're in a better place.
Me: 51 W: 50 M 24 yrs EA: since Apr 06 S22, S26, S28 ILYBNILWY:Nov 07
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." Tyler Durden