For me hope and time are linked. I know that if I push things now, there is no hope. I get hope from other people's stories and see in those stories that time was needed for both partners to decide to work on M. I know it doesn't work in all cases, but it works in some, and that gives me more patience than I would normally have.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now