For me hope and time are linked. I know that if I push things now, there is no hope. I get hope from other people's stories and see in those stories that time was needed for both partners to decide to work on M. I know it doesn't work in all cases, but it works in some, and that gives me more patience than I would normally have.


me: 47
H: 48
he has 2 grown sons
M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd)
hit iceberg 6/07
S 9/26/07
before
now