Thank you for understanding. Your dad sounds wonderful! And you are so lucky to still have him which I know you know. And I was (am) a huge Nancy Drew fan! In fact, a friend of mine who lives down the road -- actually became the latest "Carolyn Keene" -- and has written many of the current Nancy Drews! She told me that when women friends find this out -- they all react as I did -- with enormous enthusiasm and excitement and fond memories. Nancy is/was a fantastic role model for girls IMO. Your mentioning that brought back wonderful memories.
And you're right, the saddest part is that 20 years is a LIFETIME...my son's lifetime. They both missed out on SO much. I have amazingly been able to keep his memory quite alive for my son -- but it truly breaks my heart that they only had 8 years to enjoy and love each other on the earth level.
And I also wonder if women like us -- who had amazing fathers -- are especially hard hit when our H's betray and let us down? My dad was a heroic figure to our whole family and in fact, was very high profile in the community at large. It was like growing up as a celebrity's daughter. I thought ALL men were supposed to be honorable, kind, generous, loyal and people of great integrity. My xH truly loved and respected my dad -- and I truly believe that if he were still alive my xH would NOT have ever been able to do all the self-described "horrible horrible" things he did. He wouldn't have dared!!
Anyone who has had a wonderful, loving, kind and honorable dad is lucky beyond belief. I am so grateful for the years I did have with him. I only wish my sons had had the same.
