I'm not sure Mrs Eddie isn't committed. I think she just feels cheated of an R that could have developed or fizzled out naturally. Her grandmother tricked her and she feels like she wants to go back and check out her feelings in an open way. Eddie you are unbelievable, amazing and incredible (but you knew that ;\) ) What I have to ask is: are you sure this isn't your self-esteem playing games with you? In some of your previous posts you have talked about your amazement that Mrs Eddie ever bothered with you. Are you sure you're not playing the one-down a little too well? This could be Mr Nice Guy taken to an extreme.

OTOH I posted something a while back about a TV show here where some women spent time in a convent on a spiritual journey. One of these women was living in an open R with her husband and bf (menage a trois!). Which was totally weird. But what she discovered while in the convent was that she realised the depth of her H's love for her that he was able to allow her to be free. When she came out of the convent she decided to recommit monogamously to her husband.

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong