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As for your evening with your H, it sounds like it went very well.
Yes, my post may not have been clear. He actually slept over as well.
Yes, I picked up on that.

The book is a sign of the love he still has for you but in a safe way without opening himself up too much, JMO.

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I am actually contemplating sending him a VM explaining that I didn't invite him to go with me on vacation because I didn't think he'd be interested. Also contemplating apologizing for asking him to leave (before the S). It's a balancing act for me... I think I need to let him know I am not being vindictive... (since he didn't accept my Rocky Mountains trip invitation).
Please think long and hard about this. Why would you think that he thinks you're being vindictive? You are going away on vacation because you need to take time to relax. You don't have to explain this.

As for apologizing for asking him to leave, I wouldn't do this via vm. I think it can be said when you have another opportunity like this last one where you can express that you are sorry for ever asking him to leave. I think it may be more appropriate. It would seem to me that if you left a vm just to say that, it may scare him away if he isn't ready to get closer.

Things are going well, don't change the course.

Hugs,
ISLH


Me: 49 - S22 & S26
H: 41 - No kids
M: 10/00
Bomb New Year's Day 2006
H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07
D final 07/07
Thread #9 - Hope Lives On