sorry you guys left Retro, but I'm glad to hear your H was recepting and willing to do your own version of it, yey Just got this book from the library called forgive for love. Come to think of it, lots of my insecurities and jumping to conclusion dramas come from the fact that perhaps i have not forgiven my H 100%, I prob hold some small % of grudge which feeds on anger and makes me think irrational thoughts.
Here is a bit about the stages of forgiveness (i'm posting this for my own benefit too
* I want to waste as little of my life as possible in the pain caused by anger and hurt. I want to react well when things do not go the way I want in my marriage. This decision will allow me to forgive myself, forgive my partner and even forgive life itself when necessary.
* I know it hurts when my partner doens't forgive me. I do not want to hurt him/her in this way, so I will look at the problem in such a way that I can either deal with it successfully or let go.
* I understand that everyone, myself included, operates primarily out of self-interest. I expect that sometimes I, in my self interest will be hurt by my lover's own expression of self-interest. When I understand that this is an ordinary part of life, what is there to be upset about?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
