I would give you an extra word of caution about "creating" (as in pushing/forcing) a situation to relieve the anxiety. Those who have been abused can sometimes bring a situation to a head just so they know when "something" is going to happen.
It can be hard not to feel the victim in all of this and esp if you have been in another arena of your life. Are there activities you can do that will help you redefine yourself?
