Hi Cat - just catching up. What a whirlwind. I see such a power struggle between you and H. (i recognize it from my own sitch) You want things to work out, make him take ownership, make him man-up and he keeps drawing things out with OW - even working through his feelings is difficult to sit by and watch.
The ONLY thing that worked for H and me was me letting go compeletly. With the help of my C, I was able to tell H that I was no longer going to persue him, try to fix our m, get him to commit to something he didn't want. And after I said it, I followed through.
Cat - your H knows what he did was wrong and sinful. He doesn't need you to remind him of it over and over. Let him man-up the way he CAN. It's not going to be the way you want it to be, the timing you want, the method you want, but he can do it. Stop pulling and he will get up on his own. He needs to find his way out of the mud.
You guys are together for a reason. Surely, you believe that God brought you together. Your H will always be in your life - you are the parents to children - he will always be there. Start building a friendship, again.
praying for you! Em
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
