I feel like I'm spinning out of control

[mishka422]

NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!! All it will do is make you angrier, she will whine to your H and he will come back at you. That will just make this contentious and ugly. Don't even call her those things to your H - all he will do is defend her to you and be angrier with you. It will not improve anything in any way.....trust me! I've done it all!

Step back, be assertive when you have to but otherwise just drop the anger. I can give the advice, I just can't seem to follow it yet!!!

That's the best I can offer. I'm here to listen if you need to vent about the ho but don't go after her. She didn't cause this directly, it was your husband's choice and she really is just a symptom.