I solved the mystery of the phone call. D12 told me he phoned her on her mobile. She was at the cinema at the time but she did speak to him. I resisted the urge to ask what about b/c one of my goals is to not do that anymore.
So replay it is then
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15