Okay, here is the thing that happened this weekend which I am still pondering. I think it is relevant to the discussions on this BB. Saturday evening FSG was on the phone with his brother. He was pacing about from room to room so I couldn't help but overhear part of the convo. Anyways, I heard him laugh and say " I got my swagger back on." . Now, I haven't often heard a man actually say the equivalent of this but I've definitely gotten this signal in the past. When I was young, naive and stupid (like one day before I joined this BB) I would misinterpret this signal and therefore react inappropriately. This weekend my reaction was to be amused and philosophical because it's pretty clear to me that when my cow and my monkey team up they generally engage in truly well-meant but rather short-sighted behavior that is roughly equivalent to handing the wino on the corner a gift certificate to the party store.
Back to work.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Okay, why did I bring the cow along on this trip? A while back FSG was teasing me about the fact that I refused to acknowledge any level of attachment due to the fact that we hadn't met in person. Finally, I was like "I will be disappointed if things don't work out when we meet so I guess I am 2 or 3 degrees of attached." and he said "Well, I must be 4 or 5 degrees of attached because I will be hurt if things don't work out" (NOTE: Puppy behavior that did not turn me off.)
So, I'm a bit nervous (understatement)traveling on the plane to meet FSG (even though I'm looking all Malibu Mojo and probably a lot of men in the airport would have wanted to have sex with me but I ignored them. I know a lot of women get attention but when you're 5"9 and DD and you wear heels and dress for a sexual assignation it's pretty much like you are a freakin' tourist attraction) but what I told myself was that I was just going to walk right up and give him a hug because that would be appropriate and nice no matter what. So that's what I did and he was obviously very happy to see me because he kept cracking me up by saying 'You're going to spend the weekend at MY house?' like he couldn't believe it while we were waiting at baggage check.
One thing that became quite apparent to me over the course of the weekend is that FSG is complete workaholic. He had called me the night before my flight in order to apologize about a million times because he was going to have to go back to work to deal with some crisis after he picked me up. So we got back to his place and he helped me settle in a bit and then he was going to go back to work but somehow we started making out and then he pretty much threw me down, skinned my pants down and gave me head almost to completion and then jumped up and said "I got to go. I'll finish that later." I , of course, was like WTF for a couple seconds and then I started laughing my *ss off and called him a tease. So you can see we were quite sexually compatible and by the end of the weekend had come to an agreement that I was a freak but he was a complete maniac.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I couldn't pull off half the crazy stuff you pull off Mojo (too lazy and limited risk tolerance) but I'm glad you had a good time. Only do write those memoirs when you're 90, ok? The world would be a poorer place without them. *s*
Only do write those memoirs when you're 90, ok? The world would be a poorer place without them. *s*
Thanks. I am actually trying to figure out how I can make more money with my non-sexual monkey since I must face up to the fact that I am lacking any sort of true management and leadership abilities or diligence and industry or organization and attention to detail etc. Pretty much I gotta get by on clever and make-my-own-lucky. I have decided to create a new field in which to work which I shall call Intellectual Property Rehabilitation.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I'm guessing he likes you enough to see you in person again.
Well, he had been consistently promoting a continuing relationship. For instance, when he showed me his pool he said "It will be warm enough to swim when you visit next month." However, there is a semi-psycho ex-girlfriend who has introduced complications so....
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Mojo, do you like him enough to see him again in person?
I definitely like him enough to visit him again. However, I don't know about our long term compatibility. I could probably handle the workaholism but he neither reads nor hikes (although he is intelligent and he does workout). I was reading an article in More magazine that said that if you would describe yourself as a serial monogamist rather than someone who is dating then you are someone who is not "sorting" men fast enough. I think I probably need to do some values clarification and come up with some better criteria than "not like my 2bx".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
What will you do in this new field? Made me think of my years at a management consulting firm and their use of the term intellectual capital for the consultants' collective industry knowledge, ideas, management models, etc. etc. My job, as an industry group knowledge manager, was to catalog company-generated documents for the consultants' use. I really liked that job. Unfortunately, it was one of the first areas to be cut when they had financial trouble some years back.
I admire you for being self-employed, because I don't have the discipline for it.
I think I probably need to do some values clarification and come up with some better criteria than "not like my 2bx".
Hear, hear.
It's not just "rebound" I've observed in friends .... it's the pendulum swing that's the bitch. They pick someone as far as possible from the x, but what they've done is just pick another extreme, which doesn't necessarily bode well.
For instance, workshy vs. workaholic.
Glad it all went well and safely.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
Have you seen the reality show about the matchmaker for millionaires? You would be great at something like that. Maybe matchmaking for people coming out of SSMs. OR Have you heard of "cuddle parties"? These are non-sexual touch orgy events since folks are so touch starved. How about hosting the same thing but with a more sexual edge - naked twister, jello wrestling, strip poker and so forth....... You could be an entrepreneur while working on your memoirs. Perfect.
Karen, that matchmaker program absolutely blows my mind! Those people are so SHALLOW! Especially the women! I can honestly say I don't know any women like that. If that's what MOST men (channeling cemar here) think women are like then no wonder they have such a low opinion of them (channelinb Burg and blackfoot here). Did you see the 44-year old guy with the spiky hair who hooked up with the long haired bloned who "liked to swallow"? Yuck. And the restaurant owner who thought that blonde girl Sabrina liked him when it was clear she couldn't stand him?
