Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

[fooled again]

Hi Mike,

I've read the MLC stories also, they do give you hope. I've seen where the LBS worked and waited only to give up and move on. After that the WAS wanted to come back, LBS turned them away, they had moved on. I hope that's not my case.

The more I detach, the more I fear that this may happen to me. I suppose that that's the thing that makes me feel saddest. My H contacts me less and less lately, and acts surprised that I don't call him. I am really trying hard to detach to really see what he will do. So far, he is keeping his distance, doing his own thing, not calling me every night at bedtime anymore. In the last week he has called me four or five times, which is alot less than usual. I actually find myself hoping he won't call me so that I can stay balanced. I feel like I'm inside one of those beautiful water globes - I'm fine and can see things clearly until he calls or comes around and shakes up my world, then everything is foggy and cloudy and messed up in my mind and heart.

So for now it is what it is. I guess he is busy trying to find a job. He told me he has had several interviews over the past week and it is his #1 concern. I can understand that. He is going out of town for a big one on the 14th - the timing of that one struck me, but he took the trouble of forwarding me an email from the recruiter about that date (most likely to allay my suspicions).

He asked if we could "stay together on the 13th" before he goes out of town. I said I would love that, but then I don't know if that's such a great idea, or what exactly "stay together" means to him. I have a good idea it involves bedsheets, but is that him trying to reconnect, or trying to cake eat? And does it make any difference in the long run in MLC? Do you keep them at arms length, or do you respond when they try to get close?

I'm happy to hear your W being more approachable (for lack of a better word). Go slow, but you know that. I hope your pizza night is fun. Sure mail me a slice - I'd love to try some of yours!!

FA