I feel like I'm spinning out of control

[KPK]

Thanks Mishka. We've agreed on joint legal custody, which gives us both power in terms of medical issues, schooling, etc... Physical custody is the problem. If I had sole physical custody, the children live primarily with me, and he gets visitation- we've come up with a very flexible visitation schedule.

If there's joint physical custody (which he now wants), the general understanding of the terminology is that the kids spend equal or almost equal time living with each parent, which I see as very disruptive. The main issue he's concerned with is that if I have sole physical custody, I could very easily move somewhere else with the kids and he would have very little say, which I have no plans to do. Joint physical custody allows him to stop that. My issue is with joint legal custody,even though he says he doesn't want to have the kids split 50-50 because it wouldn't be good for them, he could easily petition the court to change the agreed upon visitation schedule to be in line with the general understanding of joint physical custody provisions, and I don't like the possibility of my kids being shuttled from house to house. He swears he wouldn't do that, but at this point I trust nothing he says.

Sorry if the above is rambling/confusing.