There are so many emotions we have to fight against. What we want to say, isn't going to help. When we want to say loving things, it doesn't help. When we want to say angry things, it doesn't help. And we bounce between the two. Since neither way is going to work, not talking to them helps. Helps you. Until you can control yourself.
Of note: She said you can talk to her anytime.
Don't. Think of it like a trap. Don't go there right now. Your not emotionally balanced enough for it, and you'll tip one way or the other.
A couple of tricks for you to learn. Do you have a female friend, or co-worker who is 'safe'? By safe I mean no interest on either side, yours or hers? Learn how you talk with her. Banter and act. Learn that. And start talking to your wife that way. Its a trick, THAT is more than likely how you originally talked and acted with your wife. Re-Learn it for when you do start really talking with her.
The other trick, its a memory game. Have you ever dumped a chic? Did they ever beg for you back? Try to remember how THAT made you feel...all pressured and guilty and crap. Apply that to your wife, and you actions. Modify your actions based on that.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
