I moved out of the bedroom Sunday which seems to be working well and giving her space.I think it showed a lot of respect for her on my side.
Personally, i think it shows her "you are preparing to be legally separated/divorced".
Going to the separate rom may be the appropriate thing to do, at this point in time. But I would suggest not viewing your moving to a separate room, as somehow a "positive" thing in her eyes. I dont think it's a "pat yourself on the back for doing something good" kind of thing.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle