Ok, bringing this thread back to Noles Fan, my vote would be to suck it up, live w/ it, try to forget it or whatever, but I don't recommend you telling your W about your one night stand or however long the affair lasted.

I think the only reason MY H told me was b/c of HIS guilt. I would prefer to have not known about him cheating on me.

But, as I said, this is just my "vote" or opinion that you NOT tell your W. Let it rest in the past.

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10