NoCode, I know what you are going through; I guess everyone here does. I used to think I would stick it out for a long time and only recently through some sleepless nights and nightmares have I begun to rethink that. I've read the quote here that you know when it's time and I haven't reached that moment yet.
I do find that my H has moments where he seems to be more caring lately and reverts more back to "pre-affair" personality which may not make sense, but he seems to come out of the fog sometimes recently. I don't know if that means anything or not. I guess that is looking for signs of progress that DB/DR talks about? I don't know if you have any progress like that in your R, but haven't read of any in your recent posts. I think without those I would have a hard time DBing for long-term. Karen43
