I think you should tell your wife, that you think that MC was an idiot, and that you do not wish to be divorced, or even legally separated.

It's really important that you distance yourself from that MC in front of her, in my opinion.

Nor do I think you should be doing "last resort/going dark".

"Not clinging/pursuing": yes

"Giving her space": yes

"Deliberately Avoiding her and not talking to her at all": no


that's my opinion. take it for what it's worth.

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle