Jen, The first chapter of DR is on this forum. It is located just beneath the Newcomers thread. If you haven't already done so, you may want to read it.
I know how difficult it is to see H leave. This Friday will be 4 weeks that we've been separated.
If you feel taken advantage of by doing his laundry since he's not really there, then let him know that but try to remain calm when you tell him and try to not put him on the defensive. (I know it's sometimes hard to do).
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz