What bugs me is how she keeps referring to my snooping as a betrayal of trust that is as equally severe as her infidelity. She blames her infidelity in part on my years of snooping, claiming that this was the only answer I would have every settled for. She may be right, but the irony is that now that I know that "the worst possible thing" happened my desire to snoop is *totally* gone. Its like the fear I had for the last almost 2 years of "the worst possible thing" wasn't really all that bad once it happened. I had a cold resignation when I found out for sure. I guess I could also go the other way with all this - if she hadn't been covertly in contact with her old boyfriend for years I never would have had to snoop.
