It sounds good about the possibility of blocking OM on IM and the organizing of her house. Give it time as it sounds like things are progressing well.
Yeah, she's really 'warming up to me' this week. I'm not expecting anything significant to happen, but it is an improvement.
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BTW... What is your W's attraction of using myspace?
We both use it - Mostly she has old school friends and stuff on there that find her and her sister. I'm not sure why she posts things on there, but it's kind of a little routine she has. Kind of like journaling, I think.
It sounds good about the possibility of blocking OM on IM and the organizing of her house. Give it time as it sounds like things are progressing well.
W confirmed tonight that she had 'deleted everything to do with OM' from her life - Not sure if I believe her 100%, but she seemed pretty adamant about it.
We had a really good time together tonight - Had dinner, went to Target with D, then I went to pick her up some movies from Blockbuster while she put D to bed. I left after 10pm, but she was totally exhausted and really out of it. Gave me a hug and kiss. I honestly can't remember if we did ILY or not.
I also asked her when her next C appt was - Told me it was Valentine's Day at 4pm. Not Thursday, not 'day after tomorrow', V day. So, am I supposed to do something for it now? She bought me a card 'from D' for V day when we were out tonight.
I have no idea what to do right now. Is anything really different now OM is gone? Obviously W seems to want to spend time with me, but I've no idea if I need to be more affectionate, or just the same. I'm sure she'll need time to process her feelings for OM, but I don't know how to figure the next step out.
Need some V day advice, since I only have a few hours before the end of today. Should I even bother sending W flowers at work from D and I, or should I just pick something up tomorrow on my way home?
Do I buy her a gift, or do I not? I'm going to get a card (one from me, one from D), but I can't get my head around the rest of it...
Do you and your W typically do something? If so, then maybe scale back what you would normally do, but still do something.
My W and I typically haven't done anything in the past. Maybe go out to dinner or something, so I don't think that we're going to do anything. At least I don't have anything planned, so I'll have some egg on my face if she does decide to do something for me. Such is life though.
It's a tough decision. Let us know what you figure out...
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
D6 said to me "let's buy Mummy a Valentines Day card that has a sparkley love heart on it". So we've bought one card from the two of us (nothing mushy) and a small gift. No flowers this year.
This is a hard one because of how weird your relationship is. If your wife was the typical WAW I'd say don't do anything, but since she's not typical, I'd do something. Maybe not over the top, but certainly flowers at the least.
bhopeful, since your wife is now expressing her love for you (unless that's changed), I'd also suggest that you do something, even if you previously didn't. You can't go all LRT on her.
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Do you and your W typically do something? If so, then maybe scale back what you would normally do, but still do something.
We really never did much - I'm going to pick up some flowers for her. She has her C appt late afternoon, so she might not be in much of a social mood tomorrow. I was thinking that maybe a night off from chores and D would be fun for her.
I think last year was when we got 2ft of snow overnight and we stayed home all day with D. We went out in the evening to our favorite Mexican restaurant and laughed at all the people standing in the snow waiting for tables at Olive Garden. We don't like Olive Garden very much
Originally Posted By: bhopeful
My W and I typically haven't done anything in the past. Maybe go out to dinner or something, so I don't think that we're going to do anything. At least I don't have anything planned, so I'll have some egg on my face if she does decide to do something for me. Such is life though.
If my W wanted to come back, I'd sell a kidney to get a reservation at a good restaurant tomorrow Not saying you should go all out and potentially scare her away, but you should do something really creative. Only got a few hours before tomorrow, so start working on it.
If my W wanted to come back, I'd sell a kidney to get a reservation at a good restaurant tomorrow
You're right. I'll see what I can do. I'm not sure that I'm even going to see her tomorrow though. Maybe I'll cook her dinner. I never (and I mean never) cook, so I'm sure that she'd appreciate it. I'm writing her a song right now. She knows about it but hasn't heard any of it, so I'll push myself to get it finished up tonight. That should be a pretty thoughtful and creative gesture.
Me: 29 W: 28 T: 10 M: 7 No kids 2 Dogs and 1 Cat With Parents: 09/16/07 Apartment: 10/13/07 Back Home: ~2/16/2008
BTW... What is your W's attraction of using myspace?
I noticed today that W had deleted OM off MySpace and Facebook (yeah, I realize she's 35 and not 12, but everyone we know uses those sites). No idea when she did that - Probably Monday night or yesterday.
She told me last night that she didn't have any friends anymore - Got rid of OM and doesn't talk to the rest of her friends. I didn't do the "What the hell am I then?" thing, but I wanted to... She's really quiet and cranky today. Talked a little on IM, but mostly just one word answers. I have D tonight, so hopefully she'll take it easy.
I also gave her a set of keys to my house this morning when I picked D up to take her to school - Last night when I went to get her some movies, she locked the door behind me when I left. I used the doorbell when I got back, since I didn't want to just walk in if she didn't want me to - Got a "Why did you press the bell. Don't you have a key you can use?" as a response. I still used the doorbell this morning though
I would go w/ a card and maybe flowers that you give her instead of having them delivered. I got a very non-mushy card for H. I won't give it to him unless he gives me one. I also have a box of candy that he will like, just incase. I will follow his lead.
My H is seeing his C tomorrow also. I don't think he realized it was v-day when he made the appt. I also don't think the day means a thing to him. It has never been a big day for us, although I do remember where he took me to dinner the first year we were married. It is 1000 miles from where we live so I don't think we will be going there tomorrow, not that we will go anywhere.
