I'd love to team up. Sometimes I feel all alone here.
My thread is H in MLC you can read it and check out my situation.
H and I will be married 20 yrs the end of this month. Our S19 is a freshman in college but lives at home & S15 is a sophomore.
H admitted to me (after I confronted him) on Thanksgiving Day that he had been in a "relationship" for 2 yrs with OW (they had been "friends" for 4 yrs). They would get together whenever they were able. She lives in another town about 1 1/2 hrs from our home and she has 3 young kids. I honestly don't believe he would have ever told me about her if I hadn't confronted him. I believe he felt cornered when I confronted him and that is why he said he wanted a D. H didn't even tell me he wanted a D. I asked him if he did and he said Yes. H walked out on us that day and hasn't looked back since.
He seems to be in classic MLC. I really don't have much patiences and I'm already tired of this. Some people have been at this for years! I keep praying that God gives me strength and patience.
I don't want a D and I'm standing for my M. But, it's so hard when H is "enjoying" his new life with OW. Why would someone want to start all over raising someone elses young kids? Our youngest will graduate HS in 2 yrs and be off to college. H and I could go away whenever we wanted. I was so looking forward to us becoming a couple again. I know I neglected, didn't appreciate and took my H for granted and I so would love a chance to change all of this. H won't even consider giving us a chance. He gives me the classic MLC lines of I've been finished for years, stayed because of the boys, ILYBNILWY, etc. I'm sure you've heard them too. Are men born with this script in their brain?
H doesn't contact S19 much at all and he isn't contacting S15 as often as he was. He used to call S15 daily but now it's about every 3 - 4 days.
