You've got it. Since this weekend when I dropped the rope and help her/us move out/on, our relationship is better. I even detect glimpses of "OMG, this is actually happening, is this really what I want?" Just glimpses, mind you and I just roll with them, but trust me, the more I fought it, the more it was going to happen. Now that I'm not fighting it, the pressure is off and there's a chance it might not happen.
BUT!!!! I'm OK with it either way. The only way I'm going to stay married to my wife is if we get divorced. It is kind of a Zen thing ...
So much so that my counselor asked me, "What are you going to do when she wants you back?"
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
