Wife read letter today. Said she wants to talk about it but has not called yet. We'll see what happens. She says that I need to be prepared because I will not like what I hear. But I know that I just want honesty between us. Maybe we can move forward after this. Hopefully together.
Just to clarify W doesn't lie to my kids about OM. Just me. She told them a long time ago and had them keep it a secret. They know who she sees when she leaves for the weekend. I'm just concerned because they will remember and will resent her later. I think D already does a little. But I think W sugar coats it to pacify the kids. Its sad that she says these things to our kids and her friends. Especially when her actions around me are totally different. That's why I choose to stay on the ride
I am so sorry all this is happening to you. Your D may be acting "as if" but rest assured...this is bothering her I'm sure. What child doesn't need their Mom??? Ideally they need BOTH parents. But from what you've posted here re: her comment about "having more fun without her anyway" sounds like the resentment may be building. Keep an eye on that dude...you don't want her to grow up hating her Mom.
As far as the letter, I understand your need to get your point across to your wife but remember, as far as she is concerned, she is not caring what you are feeling, what the kids are feeling, or what anybody else is feeling....except her. It is REALLY messed up but that's the way it is right now. I really don't believe anything you can say to her to convince her to stop and take a look at what she is doing is going to sink in. It's fallin' on deaf ears ma' boy....
You know she's lying and she knows she's lying. There's a tremendous amount of guilt there on her part for sure. So how do you think she is going to react to that much guilt??? How do you think you would react if you felt as much guilt as she must be feeling right now??? Most people I know retaliate with anger...it's the easiest emotion to feed.
Well, I guess we'll see what happens with the letter. It may work out that this is exactly what she needed to hear. But don't be surprised if it doesn't turn out that way. I'm sorry man....
