Help Me Act AS IF, Part 3

[newnamenewlife]

spom,
You make some excellent points. I am very confused. I get different advice from friends who have known H for a long time. When I read your post, that makes all the sense in the world, absolutely. When I talk to friends, they suggest other approaches which at the time seem to make perfect sense too.

H&I are both very hurt and confused and stuck right now. I am trying to rise above, to honor his feelings--and yet, and yet--we have kids and responsibilities and things that make it impossible for H to simply fall off the map. He is still being a good dad, though--which is great.

Anyway, for today my goal is to focus on work that I keep not doing and to be kind and supportive to H without pressuring him to be there for me.