Control is a brutal thing, isn't it? Is the "controlling behaviors" list still floating around on the board? If so, it's a good eye-opening read. It makes us see how really controlling we are - and then we can write some 'opposites' to the behaviors to work on stopping. Once you get the hang of it, your teeth clench less, I gaurantee it!
Fear is brutal, too. Especially when our own integrity has been on the line for so long, it's hard to know what to fear more - him filing or you doing it! The thing is, though, there isn't a winner or a looser. He might "get what he wanted all along" but if that is the case he was going to get it anyway.
I think that it is always better to be true to yourself and hold your head high. There won't be any shame in the awful process if you can do that. Never, EVER, be a push over - but give where you honestly can even if it does come down to the big D.
***PS: I'm working from home today so I'm on the world's most awful laptop keyboard. Please excuse any (many) typos!!!!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
