Wife's MLC???

[bombardier50]

I'm with Drew and Jack. The natural desire is to confront and "talk some sense into her." Doesn't work. Makes things worse. Like Jack, I'm speaking from experience here.

Jack...Drew...your thoughts here.

You know what I'd do now?

Drop the rope, man.

Fyre, I'd make it a point to apologize to your wife. Yup. Suck it up and tell her you're sorry for confronting her. Say something like this: "Hey...I'm really sorry for the things I said the other day...for confronting you like that. Look...this is your life. I don't want you to feel like I'm trying to control you. You are free to do whatever you want. My hope is that we can work through this and stay married. But if that doesn't happen, I know I'll be okay. I'm here for you if you want to talk."

When I did that with my wife, it really kind of shocked her. Suddenly, she was free choose her path, and now, all the pressure of that choice was on her. I wasn't there to push her in any direction. And most importantly, it lifted me out of the sewer.

It's sort of a Zen thing. The harder you push, the harder she'll push back.

Let her go. Rise above. Detach. Set the example.

And be the guy she married. THAT'S how you'll get her back. When she decides to choose, make it an easy decision.

Am I making sense here?

Bomb