Piecing? Sexual issues? hmm...not sure

[saffie]

I hear what you say about your H behaving in ways you didn't think he could when you were involved with OG. I would like to say that my H probably feels the same about my behaviour when he told me of his A, but instead of seeing my behaviour as worrying he was actually amazed that I loved him enough to fight so hard and do these things to try and keep my M. I did things I am not proud of but I am proud of the fact that my M is better than ever now.

I also spent many years of my M, although generally happily M'd, occasionally thinking about a guy I had been close to when younger - a guy who I had always thought I would one day marry before I met my H, a guy who went to see my mom when he got my wedding invite bcause he wanted to stop the wedding. Whenever we hit a low spot in our M I would think of him. NOW I know that he could never be the man I had built him up to be in my mind - he was/ is just a man. Life is too short to spend time on the what if's with the OG; you have a H who loves you and who you have children with. There are so many people in the world who would be so happy to be in that position.