You definetly did the right thing by pulling a 180 and putting yuor D and M first, maybe you need to figure out what really she wasnt happy with and work on showing her you can "step up" and do those things, not just for her, becuase it really is what you want, to be a new you and have a better M.
I dont know if I was reading your posts right, but it seems yo ucontacted her a few times regarding your decision...I think that may be a danger area, perhaps leave her to come to you? ( I know you have to make arrangements re your D, but as long as you're sure she got the message, maybe leave it with her to come back to you?) You have to gaurd against pursueing behaviour - not DBing and also, she said she felt smothered didnt she? Try and let her sit with her decision, as somoen said to me... I'm no expert on all this though, but it was only when I stopped calling altogether that he started calling me voluntarily, but still nothing said. Its nice to have the other person call you though (which they cant if you keep emailing/phoning!). You sound like you're getting by and doing well?
Ali _______________ Me: 36 H: 34 LT: 9 years ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07 Own apartment: 26 Jan 08 3 months on
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
