STFU. You know you are going to hate yourself if you tell her you love her. You've come this far ... man, you can go a little longer.
Remember the rules of DBing my friend - they are about your dignity as much as saving your marriage. She's going to think you're a schmuck if you tell her you love her and miss her now.
You're relationship with her is good - keep it that way - no need to make it awkward ...
You don't know what's happening with her boyfriend, but you do know that women don't respect men who make themsevlves too vulnerable. We want most what we can't have.
You would get a better reaction from your wife seeing you with another woman than you would with telling her that you you love her.
You know this stuff ....
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
